Tell Me Pastor

Old flame wants me back

Dear Pastor,

Why is it that my man who left me for one of my friends wants to come back and be with me while still staying with that friend?

Why does that friend also think that we should remain friends? As far as I am concerned, she only wants to be my friend because he likes some favourite food that she can't cook, so she keeps calling me for me to tell her how to make him happy.

What do they expect me to do? He still comes around and helps me with whatever I need and I am grateful for it. But, then he gets mad when I tell him that I cannot date him after what he did.

Could you tell me what is wrong with this guy?

O.C., Houston, Texas

Dear O.C.,

There is an old song which goes something like this, "I would like you and my sweetheart to be friends..." This man took over your friend, but he has not totally left you. You are sweet and lovely. Everything about you is sweet, including your food. The woman that he now has can't come up to his demands. So, he wants to have both of you to be civil to each other.

You need to 'run' this man. You need to stop asking him to do you favours. When you ask him to do favours, he wants you to pay him with your body. Let him stay with his new girl. Do not even entertain him. Next time she calls you and ask you how to prepare certain dishes for him, tell her to go and learn how to cook.

Pastor