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Baggage!

Dear Pastor,

I have been seeing this guy for over two years now and for some odd reason, he won't marry me. I get really confused at times that I don't know what to do.

I think I did something bad and maybe you can confirm this. When I moved to Florida almost 10 years ago, I stayed with my niece who was living in a one-bedroom apartment. She basically helped the family when she had money. Well, I bought a house in someone else's name and have been living much better than her. She was living with me when she was down and under and jobless.

One day I told her and my daughter to move out of the house despite knowing that they had nowhere to live. I prefer having my son and his girlfriend living with me. I love to have privacy whenever my man comes from Jamaica, so I could not tolerate them anymore. I am not living in the United States legally. I think that is the reason why this man won't marry me. I have excess baggage. Please advise me.

M.W., Sunrise, Florida

Dear M.W.,

When you first went to the United States of America your niece took you in although she was only living in a one bedroom apartment. She assisted you also financially. She gave you a start in a new country. Now that you are doing well and she is going through a rough time, you have proven that you are a very ungrateful woman. That is not the way you should treat your niece.

Are you not afraid that God who has helped you will take away your blessings?

It seems to me that you are showing off on your niece and you are shameless about it. What you should have done was to try and help your niece to get back on her feet, so to speak. God is not sleeping and God knows what you have done is wrong. You are only thinking about your man. You should also be concerned about your daughter and your niece. Remember, God can take away your blessings. Seek to help your relatives and others.

Concerning your wanting to get married, don't allow any man to use you. Wait on the Lord. Ask him to direct your path and to give you the desires of your heart.

Pastor